Monday, May 15, 2006

Children

I am always a little surprised when I see children wearing shoes at home, whether on television or in person. It surprises me because when I was a child, my parents expected me to remove my shoes at the door. When I visited my friends' homes, their parents often expected me to take my shoes off. So it always seems a little strange when I see children keeping their shoes on at home.

The practise of removing shoes was expected until I reached the age of about 12. My parents became less stringent about it as I got older. Occasionally this house rule would be revived in later years. It was restored when I was 21 when my parents and I moved to a house with cream carpets, though they were not consistent in keeping to it.

There are some homes, in the UK, where the hosts will expect the children of guests to remove their shoes, but would not expect it of adult guests. Some guests will insist that their children remove their shoes without removing their own. I can understand why some people may be more concerned about children's shoes; children do tend to be less careful about what they step in and are more likely to run around in long and wet grass. However, adults should never forget that their own shoes pick up an awful lot of less noticeable dirt. There is also the fact that children learn to follow rules better when adults act consistently. There is a certain amount of 'do as I say, not do as I do' in the requirement of shoes-off for children only.

Many childcare experts are of the opinion that children should wear shoes to the minimum necessary and therefore recommend shoes-off indoors for health reasons.

26 comments:

John Rush said...

Thought I'd check back in to the shoe fight.

Shoes can keep kids from getting worms.

JRush

The IBEX Scribe said...

If adults make their children remove their shoes I think they ought to remove their own. Teaching by example is much more effective!

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Angie, I agree.

John, thanks for that thought.

There are a number of health reasons why children are better off living in shoes-off homes.

I used to get worms as a child, but I was not in the habit of running about barefoot.

Every Blessing in Christ

Matthew

Nunzia said...

i'm still not allowed to wear shoes in my parent's house! :)

Redeemed said...

I was a tomboy as a child and would get dirt all over, not only in my shoes. Shoes and socks would have to come off at the door!

That made my mother very angry. I would get sand in my pockets (from the park) and in my shoes. It's funny now, but my mother didn't appreciate it back then.

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Nunzia, I think your parents are very sensible.

Thanks for visiting.

Sarah, I cannot imagine that.

Every Blessing in Christ

Matthew

Redeemed said...

I was just a child! People change...rather God changes us for the better.

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Indeed.

It is funny, though.

Your tomboy leanings were no doubt what lead you to take up Karate?

Redeemed said...

Yes, and I liked sports. But also because my brother was taking karate and he was very good at it and had no problem practicing on me.

I had to take ups self-defense!

The IBEX Scribe said...

My sister was a lot like that, Sarah. Although she was the tomboy growing up, she is probably the most "prissy" of the three of us. (She is also by far the nicest member of the family!)

I think it is not unusual for girls to be tomboys and grow out of a lot of it. It is not as though it is anti-feminine, in my opinion.

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

I think my sister had the tomboy tendency at one time.

Redeemed said...

I remember throwing fits for not wanting to wear skirts, and now, I feel very uncomfortable wearing pants!

How's your sister now, Matthew?

Angie, you are very nice and sweet!

The IBEX Scribe said...

I liked wearing frilly dresses when I was young. Back in the day I was not allowed to wear pants (and definitely not shorts or jeans!) to church. I think that changed somewhere around high school when my mom started wearing pants to church. I think my church pant wearing patterns developed in college, changed the last few months I was home (I think I wore a skirt or dress to church almost every week for at least 3 or 4 months - for me that was quite a long streak!), and then changed back when I moved here. Funny how things change over time, isn't it? I need to go skirt shopping, since all of the ones I have with me (four skirts and two dresses) hit high on the calf. If I had longer ones I might wear them during the cooler months!

My childhood thing I hated was sunblock. Oh, how I hated it! Oh, how I got really bad sunburns! I am afraid to spend a long time (by which I mean 20 minutes - it doesn't even take that long for me to start turning pink) outside without it now.

Sarah, thanks for thinking that I am nice and sweet. :) Saying that my sister is the nicest is saying that she is just nicer - she genuinely thinks well of (most) people. The rest of us are a little bit more critical and cynical, but I don't think any of us are mean (at least not anymore - I make no claims of niceness as a child - I was the kid in the church nursery pushing the other kid off of the tricycle that I wanted to ride).

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Sarah, I am glad you prefer skirts now.

I have not heard from my sister since she left on Saturday.

Angie, I think long skirts look lovely. I see quite a lot of ladies wearing them in winter.

Every Blessing in Christ

Matthew

The IBEX Scribe said...

Do we have no National Etiquette Award this week, Matthew?

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

I used to write it on Thursdays most weeks, Angie.

I shall write it tomorrow, unless you want to write it this week. You are welcome to, if you want.

Every Blessing in Christ

Matthew

The IBEX Scribe said...

Oh, I see. No, I think you should write it this week. I need to focus on my school work as much as possible right now, and I'm doing a lousy job as it is. Besides, my parents are on a cruise right now (I think they are in Sweden) and I think they are stopping by the next country to receive the award from me, so I'd like to get their feedback on that before I post.

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

That is fine.

BTW, Sweden is also a shoe-removing country if you want to handle that as well.

God Bless

Matthew

The IBEX Scribe said...

I shall have to check the list you sent me and see which countries I know nothing about (which is most of them, from what I recall) and pick a few more, but not this week. :)

Redeemed said...

I don't know why but I like Sweeden.

I know you don't care, but Canada will be facing Sweeden in the hockey nationals for the semi-finals. I shall root for Canada, but I will be sad for Seeden...

Redeemed said...

*oops, Sweeden

Redeemed said...

But I know that sports are stupid and that I shouldn't care.

Dyspraxic Fundamentalist said...

Scandinavian countries are cool.

All these Ice Hockey countries are shoe-removing places. The weather of course.

God Bless

Matthew

Redeemed said...

Yes, makes sense!

The IBEX Scribe said...

And I say it again - you Canadians and your hockey!

Redeemed said...

:)