Friday, September 11, 2009

Being Straight with Guests


I would argue that having a 'don't ask but encourage' policy with shoes is not really any more polite than having a shoes-off rule.

Sometimes it is good for people to know where they stand.

It did occur to me that having a 'don't ask' policy might cause resentment and division amongst guests at party.

The people who take their shoes off may feel superior to those who have kept their shoes on. Even worse they may feel resentful of those people who have kept their shoes on.

A bigger problem is the embarrassment caused to guests who have kept their shoes on when they realise that shoes-off is preferred. Discovering that shoes-off is preferred when they have been walking about the house shod for an hour might make them feel rather awkward.


richyrich said...

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Celestial Fundy said...

Good searching.

karen said...

From the one that spent 5 days blogging about keeping ones' shoes ON, I'm so impressed that you have taken the trouble ot write an entire blog about taking shoes OFF! Most impressive! even though I heartily will always want to keep my shoes on- and don't worry, I've never felt embarrassed or been made to feel uncomfortable about leaving my shoes on either if I've chosen to do so, and it was optional! Instead I'm happy ot sit in a coordinated outfit with warm feet!
Your blog is amazing in a very interesting way!Impressive!

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for dropping in, Karen.