Friday, January 01, 2010

You should think about it

I hope you all had a good New Year's Eve. I was working at the hospital, talking to some of the revellers who had been brought in worse for wear.

I suggested in the last post that you should make a New Year resolution to insitute a shoes-off policy in your home. Perhaps you do not feel ready for that just yet. But I woud encourage you to think about it. It will help to protect your family's heath, keep your home cleaner, save you money, as well creating a more relaxed environment for whoever visits.

Perhaps if you get a new carpet, install new flooring or move to another property in the New Year, this would be a good opportunity to make the change to a shoe-free home.

It is not a difficult change to make! Just a little self-discipline and a little politeness is all that is needed.

15 comments:

Footums-Alternative to the Slipper said...

I have a no shoes rule in my apartment, mop once a week, and sweep every 2-3 days. But my feet/socks still get dirty so I created a footpad that sticks to the bottom of your foot, called Footums.
http://www.etsy.com/shop/Footums

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I try to have a "no shoes" policy at home, but somtimes find it difficult to get people to take their shoes off.

Did I see on this blog somewhere that there is a mat with "Please remove your shoes" emblazoned on it?

If so has anyone bought one and if so was it a success?

I always leave my showes by the door in the hope people will get the massage, but am reluctant to ask peple to take their shoes off.

I had a guy come to read my gas meter the other week and he left his boots at the door without me saying a word.

Also, a few months back a fiancial adviser from my local buiding society called and slipped her shoes off at the door, and came in to the house in her stocking feet.

I actualy bought it up in conversation with her, thanking her for taking them off, and although she was smartly dressed in her work uniform, she actually confessed that she never bothered with cleaning her shoes and preffered not wearing them in clents homes.

Nicky.

Celestial Fundy said...

Nicky,

Thankyou for visiting.

I have that doormat and nobody wears shoes in my apartment. If anybody kepth them on, I would ask them nicely.

While shoes-off doormats are okay, I think it is quite good enough to ask nicely.

You have to overcome that mental barrier about asking for shoes-off. There is nothing wrong with being assertive about your preferences.

If somebody makes you a cup of coffee and you would prefer it black, you ask them to not put milk in it.

If you are hosting a dinner party, you will be taking the lead over your guests. You will be showing them which room to go in before the meal. Your guest does not decide which part of the house they will go in. The format of an occasion is up to you and shoes-off can be a part of it.

When you ask somebody to take their shoes off, you are not asking them to do something horrible. You are asking them to do something they probably do in their own home and for which they will be more comfortable.

Anonymous said...

Hi,

Thanks, - do you remember where you bought the mat. I think having one would help.

I will try and ask people more in future. It's great when people do it without asking, like the two examples I mentioned.

Believe it or not I actually saw two financial advisers amd while both gave good advice about the investment I wanted to make, I actually decided to go with the building society because the young lady was so frindly and DID actually take the trouble to slip her shoes off at the door. Just made me feel that more comfortable in dealing with her.

Nicky.

Celestial Fundy said...

It is at

Mats4u: Please Take your shoes off doormat

Sales people are there at your convenience. You should feel quite free to refuse them if they do not remove their shoes (while you might excuse a guest or close friend).

Anonymous said...

Thanks so much.

I have just ordered the mat online.

You are right sales people are there at you convenince, but the other financial adviser who visited did'nt pick up on my subtle hints about recently having had my carpets cleaned at all, and walked straighht in in her shoes. Also, while she did'nt leave marks or anything her shoes were a little muddy!!

By contrast, the lady from the Building Society has visited a few times and always does it without any prompting. (In fact I have even seen her in the branch a couple of times with her shoes off!!).

Nicky.

Celestial Fundy said...

Its funny, at least two visitors to this blog have been people in financial services who like to take their shoes off at work.

Tiger Mouse said...

I'm personally a dress-to-the-shoes-each-day person at heart. You may/may not have heard of Flylady who actually advocates that. (Here's the link to that part: http://www.flylady.net/pages/bbd2.asp). I don't follow her all the way, but I do sympathize with the dressing to the shoes part. It puts me in a better frame of mind to start the day and get, for instance, the morning dishes done than if I were to dress only to the ankle or at most put on socks and leave it at that. (The only time the latter works out for me is if I'm sick with the flu.) I do have slippers but they are in a style I feel is more suitable for wearing with pajamas than with regular clothes. (Otherwise, I'll feel more loungy, which isn't really a plus in the day.) However, once I can afford it, I'm planning on getting a pair of slippers that look like the currently trendy ballet flats. (I had a pair once, but they eventually wore out). My reasons for that are as follows:

1. I can still feel dressed for the day even when I won't be going anywhere as far as I know while saving wear/tear on my "real" shoes.

2. I can slip them off if I want to curl up on the couch or my bed to watch TV (believe it or not, there are US households, including the one I'm in now, where there are TVs not only in the living room but in the bedrooms as well), read, etc., but then can slip them back on if I need to go do something like unload the dishwasher or let the dog in/out. While it's one thing to walk around the house in my shoes, I don't feel as bad about that as I do about wearing them on my bed, and yet since I normally wear sneakers, they're kind of annoying to constantly put on and take off. If it wasn't winter, I'd maybe wear a pair of blue flip-flops which I mainly wear at home.

3. It'd be nice to have a back-up for when/if I have something I have to go do on a rainy or snowy day and my shoes get ruined as a result. (A couple of days before Christmas, I went to mail something on a rainy day. My sneakers got wet so when I got home, I took those off at the door and changed to my Mary Janes, which I normally put on if I'm going to church or to request/turn in/check on a job application or anything else that warrants dressing up.)

Anyway, that's my two cents for now. I hope you've had a good 2010 so far.

Tiger Mouse said...

This link gives more explanation to WHY Flylady advocates dressing to the shoes:

http://www.flylady.net/pages/FLYingLessons_Shoes.asp

I just realized that the link that I had provided in my last comment didn't really explain it. Sorry about that.

Celestial Fundy said...

I have read that article before.

I can't see many women with any sense of style (as style goes in 2010) wearing lace-up shoes.

That woman is clearly living in an early part of the previous century.

Anonymous said...

I really do not understand the thinking behind the Flylady article at all.

Am I correct in thinking that over a period of time several people, (mostly women I think) have posted on here about working in professional settings either with their shoes off or wearing slippers?

Surely it is possible to do this and still look smart and work efficently.

Celestial Fundy said...

Yes, it is a bizarre article.

Anonymous said...

Hi,

Don't know whether you remember me, but I posted a few months ago about the young lady from the estate agents who was handling my house sale.

She wore black lace-up shoes and ended up removing the laces, because she found it such a nuisannce tying and un-tying them every time she visited a property.

Unfortunately, I am still trying to sell my house, and when I last saw her, in early Dec she was still wearing the same shoes without laces.

Jen Thomas.

Celestial Fundy said...

Of course I remember you, Jen.

It baffles me that the estate agent does nto just buy a nice pair of pumps, flat or heeled.

Tiger Mouse said...

"Am I correct in thinking that over a period of time several people, (mostly women I think) have posted on here about working in professional settings either with their shoes off or wearing slippers?

Surely it is possible to do this and still look smart and work efficently."

If it works for you, that's great, but it's not for me. I could maybe handle wearing slippers on the job provided said slippers were in a style that blended with the decorum of regular clothes (such as ones that look like the currently in-style ballet flats; I had a pair once but those wore out, I'm hoping to eventually get another pair to act as my "house shoes" to save wear and tear on my sneakers at home not to mention have a backup for when I go out on a rainy or snowy day and my "real" shoes get ruined). But at home, ask me to spend the entire day in socks or bare feet (and this is especially true of the latter...and there were times when I was much younger when I was told to go barefoot all day), and the chances of me getting anything serious done, such as any kind of cleaning, are not good. (Needless, to say, on a professional job, it probably wouldn't work out so well either, especially if it's one of those jobs that warrants dressing up. If I had a job and knew I was going to be caught in rain or snow on the way over, I would likely bring an alternate pair of shoes to change in upon arrival. I did the same thing when I went to school: on rainy/snowy days, I'd try to wear one pair of shoes I didn't mind messing up on the way over and slip an alternate pair in my backpack to change into.) In fact, the only time it ever really works out for me to spend an entire day unshod is when I have the flu and probably shouldn't all that active anyway. But that's just me.

I apologize if I have offended anybody with the Flylady reference earlier. I'm sure there are plenty of people who are plenty productive while unshod at home and/or at work. Unfortunately, I am not one of them, and I understand if, for that reason alone, you would never approve of me at all.