Wednesday, February 03, 2010

One More Disagreement

I mentioned this blog to a colleague. He told me that he felt no need to remove his shoes in his place and would not be incliend to visit a home where he was asked to remove his shoes. I reeled off a list of reasons why a no-shoes rule makes sense, but he was not convinced.

I tend to find myself disagreeing with this chap on quite a few issues, with his views being generally left of centre views and my own being more to the right.

Never mind. He is in his forties. That generation did things there way. Younger people are more inclined to see the sense of removing shoes and tend to see it as a necessary courtesy.

Feel free to recommend this blog to your friends and colleagues.


Bob said...

Matthew, not to be rude but I am past my 40's right of center in my economic, social and political views and as you know I have no problem with removing my shoes when I visit and practice the same rule in my own home! My wife who is also past her 40's and is more of a centerist than I has no issue with shoe removal either. I don't see the connection between age and political views and shoe removal

LivPurpleNow! said...

I wish I knew of your blog when my mother-in-law refused to remove her shoes before entering our home because - in her words - we were saying SHE was too dirty. At the time, her son was married to me (shoe-free since birth) for over ten years! It wasn't like she was unaware of our no-shoes policy.

I don't think age has anything to do with removing one's shoes. Something else is going on in "their" heads! (I'm over 40.)

Celestial Fundy said...

Bob, I was not suggesting there was a connection with politics.

Obviously, many people in their forties and fifties do prefer shoes-off in their homes, but I do think that younger people seem to be more accustomed to removing shoes in homes.

Celestial Fundy said...

LPN, thanks for visiting and leaving your comment.

Bob said...

Fair enough Matthew. Sorry if I misinterpeted the political reference and I am sure you are correct on the age issue.

Moderate Mouse said...

My "views" are pretty much center wing, and I'm 24.

The "necessary courtesy" that I was raised on when visiting a family member's home didn't have to do with shoes but rather with helping out with household tasks, especially if the "visit" is an overnight one. I remember times when I have visited my grandparents on my dad's side of the family, and, my dad (especially if HE was around) would help grandma with meal preparations as well as post-mealtime cleanup, and he expected me (as well as my sister if she was around) to do the same. One time, when I didn't help out, I was chastised for it. I was told, "We're not guests; we're family, and family helps each other out." The only exception to this was if one's help was declined. To this day, whenever I "visit" my sister, I will help out with things like dishes and even walking the dogs. And you can bet I will have on shoes of some sort when I perform any kind of task in that house, as that works out better for me psychologically. (There's no "footwear code" at that house.)

In my own house, the only things I do barefoot are sleep, shower, update my pedicure, and (maybe) sit cross-legged or with my feet curled up beneath me to read, watch TV, etc. If getting up in the morning to grab a cup of coffee (or anything else before getting dressed), I'll have on socks or slippers. But will I go ushod when sweeping the floor, setting the table, washing/putting away dishes, or load/unload the dishwasher etc.? Not so much. Even if I wear the blue flip-flops and slip those off for a while, the minute I decide to go check to see if the dishwasher is done running or my help is needed with something, the shoes go back on. For me, putting on shoes of some sort (even if they're "only" worn at home) is symbolic of preparing for action. Know what I mean?

Having said that, as soon as it's feasible, I'm still planning on seeing about a pair of shoes for "at home" (besides the flip-flops) or at least shoe-like slippers for when I'm in regular clothes but don't necessarily want to wear "going out" shoes.

Anonymous said...

The only time that it is ok to ask a guest to remove their shoes in your home is when you are providing the guest with shoes to be worn in your home. Be prepared with an adequate variety of footwear or withdraw the request. I find this request, when made without substitute footwear, incredibly rude.

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for visiting.

I must disagree with you.
Most people are quite comfortable in socks or bare feet. If they are not, they can bring slippers if they have been informed in advance.

I think a lot of people are uncomfortable withe borrowing footwear, so I don't lend substitute footwear to my visitors.

Anonymous said...

My goodness! Shoes are part of being dressed properly outside the privacy of one's own home. Unless you and I are very intimate I am not going to be at all comfortable taking off my clothes in your home. It is simply improper to require people to go without shoes. It is also unspeakably rude to put the condition of property above the comfort and proper treatment of guests!

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for sharing your opinion.