Monday, April 12, 2010


On discussion forums where this subject comes up, you often get people complaining about some mother-in-law or other relative who always keeps her shoes on when visiting. The host never asks her to remove her shoes, but still feels frustrated that she keeps them on.

My question to these complainants would be how they think the relative would feel were she to discover that she is being complained about online. She might be quite upset if she knew that her behaviour was causing such annoyance.

Rather than complaining about her online, perhaps it would be better to just be honest and ask this relative to remove her shoes? Can we not learn to be honest and say what we really think and feel?


Anonymous said...

I am sure what has been said about younger people in other posts is right.

We have a receptionist in the office where I work who always goes shoeless.

She is in her mid 20's and as soon as she arrives in work almost the first thing she does is to take her shoes off and then she goes in her stockinged feet all day.

She said that she had tried to buy a new pair of shoes, but in spite of trying on something like 30 pairs had been unable to find a pair that were comfortable.

In the end she decided just to carry on wearing her previous pair, but to take them off in the office as she says they hurt her feet if she wears them for a long period of time.

She is alwys well groomed and smartly dressed, but just goes in her stockinged feet all day.


Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for your comment.

Remind me if you have visited before?

Bob said...

Matheww, Today people are to conscious of being politically correct to speak their mind on issues. I, of course, agree that some things need a certain amount of decorum, but if you lack the will to tell someone not to do something in your home you have some big problems!

Sandro said...

Ideally, shoes-off must be by default

Anonymous said...

No I have'nt been here before and I am completely in agreement with your aims.

I never wear shoes at home and always remove them at friend's homes.

To be honest I also occassionally slip my shoes off in the office, - I was just surprised that this gorl does it all the time and has given up looking for a new pair.


Celestial Fundy said...

Sandro, I am not sure it is realistic to expect that here. People need to be told.

Sandro said...

that's why I wrote "ideally" )