Wednesday, December 01, 2010



Some people are of the opinion that it is very important that guests have the choice of whether to keep their shoes on or not.

However, it is not as simple as that. Some choices may impose on the choices of others.

Some visitors may want to take their shoes off, but may fear that doing so will be considered rude. Being informed that shoes-off is encouraged will be a great welcome for these people.

The shoes-on folks might then argue, "Yes, but you can still let people keep their shoes on without imposing on the people who prefer to go shoeless."

However, this is not the case. Firstly, those people who want to take their shoes off may fear, if there are lots of other guests, particularly at a party, that their feet may get squashed by other peoples' shoes. In a crowded party, it can be hard to avoid having people tread on your toes.

Secondly, people who take their shoes off will prefer to walk on a floor that is cleaner. In fact, there is another issue here, as Angie pointed out in a previous post. Some guests will enjoy sitting on the floor. And sitting on the floor is a much more pleasent experience when it is clean. So allowing guests the choice of wearing shoes imposes on those who like to sit on the floor.

The simple truth is that no host can please everybody. However, there are far more good reasons to insist on shoes coming off at the door than for allowing shoes to stay on. Let guests chose between slippers, socks ot barefeet. That is choice enough.


Moderate Mouse said...

As far as sitting on the floor is concerned, the only member of my household that does that on a regular basis is the dog (especially given the fact that it's gotten cold here and we have almost no carpet anymore; if the hard floor won't cut it for her, she'll opt for the nearest rug or one of her pillows). Given all of the furniture present in the home, the humans of the home (myself, mom, and stepdad) seldom, if ever, have cause to sit on the floor. However, I have found that, even if I do kneel on the floor for whatever reason (such as my nephew's around and I'm playing a game with him), it tends to hurt when I'm wearing actual shoes but not when I'm in slippers or less.

Speaking of Angie, whatever happened to her? Any clue? Did she withdraw from the discussion altogether? I apologize if I'm being too nosy here, but I know she had done some posts here sometime before I had joined the discussion but that she hadn't lately. (And no, I don't know her personally, but I have read some of the earlier parts of this blog.) I was just curious, but like I said, I apologize if I'm being too nosy.

Celestial Fundy said...

She is one of my facebook friends, so I am sort of in touch. I imagine she did not have the time to commit. I did ask her to commit to posting at least once every two weeks, which for whatever reason she felt unable to do.

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for sharing that.