Saturday, February 12, 2011

OT On Wheels: The Woman Who Would Not Take Off Her Shoes; in which I discuss my Disappointment with Home Carers lack of Respect

OT On Wheels: The Woman Who Would Not Take Off Her Shoes; in which I discuss my Disappointment with Home Carers lack of Respect
I asked her, “Please would you mind taking your shoes off? We don’t wear shoes in the house.”

“No, sorry, I can’t. Health and Safety.”

“What do you mean? Don’t you have some inside shoes?”

“No. We’ve been through this before, we don’t take our shoes off when were on the job.”

It might be hard for her to understand the implications of this. For me, this is a direct violation of my express wishes and an intrusion into my living space. My carpet is a little symbolic- I saved for a long time to afford it, because I considered it important for my family. It’s warm, and it’s clean. Nobody in the family is allowed to wear shoes on the new carpet- visitors may occasionally visit the bathroom, but no-one comes into the bedrooms with shoes on at all. Apart, that is, from the Home Care.

20 comments:

Sandro said...

TERRIBLE

Anonymous said...

Not sure if you remeber, but I posted earlier in the week - this story is un-believable especially as the shoes were muddy.

I think Richy asked whether I ask visitors to remove their shoes and I do - although most do it without my having to ask.

Our house is one of a few at the end of a lane which was never tarmaced when they were built so it is usually muddy especaially at this time of the year.

As I mentioned before I am unfornately on a fairly tight budget and only have 1 pair of work shoes. This is one reason why I take them off in the office where I work.

Also, they hurt my feet if I wear them all day. I really need new shoes and a new coat, but there never seems sufficent money left at the end of the month.

Incidentally, no one has ever mentioned the safety issue in my office.

Helen.

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for dropping in again, Helen.

Sandro said...

I've been removing my shoes for few month in an office I teach in morning hours. I would be happy just staying in my socks, but the floor is tiled and so quite cold in winter months. Actually, shoes off is not practised in this company and cleaning ladies have to wash floors regularly; nobody comments my way though the people must be aware of it. I hope the cleaning ladies appreciate my efforts. I would be more comfortable staying in my socked feet all year round, but the floor is tiled, quite cold in winter months, so I put on either slippers or traditional Caucasian thick woollen socks with half-soft soles, to wear on regular socks.
I've also started another practice lately: when I come e.g. for classes or for paying utility bills to other, more formal offices (with carpeted floors), I change into slippers I bring with myself. I don't care what other people think; yet these black slippers are quite formal, and I don't think I break any dress-code.
Anyway, it's extremely refreshing to feel I don't violate the indoor environment with outside mud.

Sandro said...

Helen, regardless of one's budget, shoes seemingly longer keep their new appearance the less you wear them. In contrast, wearing them all day long kills this appearance quite soon. I also think your feet must thank you for not making them suffer in shoes for hours, which would be so unhealthy.

Moderate Mouse said...

"regardless of one's budget, shoes seemingly longer keep their new appearance the less you wear them."

Yeah, that is true and it's part of why I switch to slippers as soon as I can at home. I don't drive and therefore I often commute on foot (though sometimes a family member or someone else is able to give me a ride), including but not limited to:

1.to and from my volunteer work at a local thrift store (where the nature of my responsibilities have me on my feet more often than not throughout the day)

2.to/from church

3. anything in connection to my job search (e.g. requesting, dropping off, or checking up on an application; unfortunately, the job market's kind of tight where I live)

4. any errands I need to run beyond #3.

Currently, I'm living with my mom and stepdad. Although I will accept occasional offers from my mom or someone else in the family to buy me a pair of shoes (either because there's a good sale or there's a pair that I need but have yet to be in a position to get), I otherwise try to do my own shoe-shopping (or for that matter take care of some other personal need of mine) when/if I have the means to do (such as if I get money for Christmas or my birthday or have been paid for something) so as I'm trying to establish and maintain a certain amount of independence as an adult.

The other reason I haven't been wearing shoes around the house lately is because of the snow/slush we've had in my hometown, which I've walked through. (At least our foyer is big enough that I can put my shoes somewhere out of the way.)

BTW, I'm sorry to hear that the author of the post had the problems that she did with the worker in question.

Sandro said...

Climates will change the world, MM )

Anonymous said...

Hi Sandro,

To be honest, I was a bit embarrsed in mentioning it - but one reason why I take my shoes off in the office is because I figure that just wearing them to and from work (about an hour and a half in total each day) rather than keeping them all day will make them last longer.

Also as I mentioned before, because of where we leave they are often mucky.

Also, I find they hurt if I wear them all day.

Helen.

Sandro said...

Hi Helen,
all the reasons are strong

Anonymous said...

Hi Sandro,

Thanks, I would prefer to spend spare money on clothes, - I feel you an look just as smart in an office without shoes.

Helen.

Sandro said...

Thank you Helen,
I hope I look smart enough without shoes, and I am sure you do

Anonymous said...

I posted a while ago about the shoes off policy at my daughter's school.

Just wondered whethert anyone saw the dispatches documentary on C4 last night.

It was about Islamic schools in the UK and many showed teachers and puils without shoes.

Surely a very good idea?

Julie.

Celestial Fundy said...

Oh yes.

Some Hindu schools are like that too.

Anonymous said...

Thanks - it has worked rteally well at my daughters school, and as the pupils don't wear shoes in class they have relaxed the rules on apperaence so it does'nt matter as much if they are mucky!!.

Julie.

Bob said...

Thought that this would be of interest to the group. I work out at the YMCA every morning. A section of one of the rooms is used by people for stretching and yoga. They have just purchased new mats and have posted a sign requesting that people using the mats do so sans their sneakers

Celestial Fundy said...

Very good. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

In Cribbs causeway (Bristiol) this AM i saw a youg lady dressed professionally resting her feet on a bench. She had taken her shoes off.

Celestial Fundy said...

It's not unusual.

Have you visited this blog before?

Alison in Indiana said...

Yes, I am posting in my slippers...
Austrian civil servants have office shoes (Birkenstocks are popular). There personel in hospitals, doctors' offices, wait staff, department store salespeople, even cleaning ladies have dedicated footwear for their jobs. Why can't the home care person have her work shoes? When I, as a senior home ccompanion, enter the home of a client, I immediately put on my house shoes, but I just got a job where I have been informed that street shoes are required - in a senior health care residence!!!

Celestial Fundy said...

Thanks for visiting, Alison.

It is important that people involved in home care respect the rights and preferences of those they are looking after.

People who are old and disable deserve to have their homes respected.

If there is an health and safety issue, then a compromise needs to be reached such as shoe covers or a change of shoes.