Saturday, December 03, 2011

Requesting is not Demanding or Forcing

re-post

Contrary to a lot of comments in the shoes-off debate, there is a difference between requesting people to remove their shoes and 'forcing' or 'demanding' them to do so.




I consulted the Meriam-Webster dictionary:

Request: to make a request to or of, to ask as a favor or privilege

Demand: to ask or call for with authority : claim as due or just, to call for urgently, peremptorily, or insistently

Force: to compel by physical, moral, or intellectual means

We do not force or demand that visitors remove their shoes, but we request them to do so.

15 comments:

Amandaclured said...

I request that everyone take off their shoes before entering my home. I have several ways I make my request known.
1. There is always a few pairs of shoes at the door in the garage or on the front porch.
2. I have a sign hanging to the side of my front door that says "Welcome to our home please take off your shoes!"
3. I answer the door in socks.
4. When all else fails and it looks like someone is about to come in with shoes on I just politely say "oh I am sorry I forgot to mention, but we do not wear shoes inside our home, you can leave yours right here, thanks."

Matthew Celestis said...

Excellent approach.

How anybody can meaningfully describe that as 'demanding' or 'forcing' is beyond me.

Steve Finnell said...

you are invited t6o follow my blog

Matthew Celestis said...

What does that comment have to do with the subject of this post, Steve?

Anonymous said...

What happens if/ when they refuse. Does one then demand. Either way the end result is the same. So why pretend there's a difference. Eventually somebody is going to say, NO. What then. Sorry to say but this sounds like a fetish masquerading as a social behaviour. There are way too many photos of feet on this blog to suggest otherwise. Your ends may well be totally correct, but the means suggest way too much partiality. It would seem that most of the world agree with you, so why alienate those who dont with arbitratory one sided views. Are you trying to convince those who don't take off their shoes to do so, or are you just preaching to the already converted? If so, why bother? Unless the blog serves a different community with a different agenda. If the purpose of this blog is to convince the detractors, then in my experience the most inneffective way to convince those who detract it to insult them either directly or by proxy. My shoes are off.

Matthew Celestis said...

Thanks for visiting and sharing your thoughts.

Bob's Wife said...

Amanda...are you as considerate when you visit other homes? When I am wearing pantyhose I always bring a pair of ballerina type flats to change into...do you do the same?

Amandaclured said...

When I visit others I tend to just slip my shoes off and walk around in socks. When friends visit me it is usually in sock feet. If I expect people to remove their shoes in my home, I feel that I should be prepared to do the same in theirs.

Anonymous said...

keep your shoes on, what are vacuums for,plug it in and use it!!!!!!!

Matthew Celestis said...

Thanks for visiting and offering your opinion.

Vacuums are very useful for keeping carpets clean, but they don't prevent long term damage to carpets and flooring.

Ian said...

I agree with anonymous 100%. :)

Shoes on in my house, dirty socks, feet and toes aren't a nice sight. People who walk about without shoes always have dirty socks. I would assume that their feet would be just as bad seeing as the sweat moisture will pick up everything thus making your carpets even more minging.

As long as you haven't been treading mud then I don't care. :)

Amandaclured said...

I don't allow shoes in my house and I always walk around in socks, and my socks are always clean. My kids do the same and they have clean socks too. If you do not wear shoes in the house then your floors stay clean and therefore so don't your socks.

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I feel that I should be prepared to do the same in theirs.

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Anonymous said...

I've been reading a lot of these posts and I've come to the conclusion this guy has a foot fetish and can't admit it. Like one poster before me said, there is pictures of feet all over the place. It makes no sense to say shoes are dirtier than someone's socks they've been walking barefoot around in all day. Plus clean freaks are only hurting yourself by not exposing yourself to germs so your body can't build up immunities to germs. That's how your immune system works. Admit it, you have a foot fetish, your avatar is a flip flop and this is a anti-shoe blog! Its easy, I admit I have a foot fetish and I'm not ashamed of it