Friday, December 21, 2012

Something is Done: Formal/Informal Parties and Take Your Shoes Off!

Something is Done: Formal/Informal Parties and Take Your Shoes Off!

"I don’t throw parties where people come in dress shoes and stilettos. In fact, if you come over, I would like you to remove your shoes, so make sure you wear cute socks and get a pedicure. Unless you have a foot odor problem or fungus, of course. Then you’re allowed to keep them on.

BabyG WILL lick the hardwood floors, no matter how many times I tell her no. She’s 8 months old, so that might be part of the reason."

59 comments:

Anonymous said...

There's a receptionist in our office (a property consultancy in Wales)who takes her shoes off as soon as she arrives and does'nt put them back on until she leaves to go home.

Matthew Celestis said...

Good for her. What do you think about that?

Sandro said...

Does she remove her shoes for comfort or for keeping the floor clean?

richyrich said...

Which part of Wales are you in Anonymous?

richyrich said...

And does she change into slippers or stay in her stockined feet?

Anonymous said...

I'm fine with it - she jaut says that she prfers it.

She juat stays in her stockinged feet and i think it is for comfort more than anything else.

It is in Mid Wales - she is only working two and a half day per week as she has young children.

Anonymous said...

I was speaking to here today and asked her why she is always shoeless.

She said hat after a couple of hours shoes start to feet heavy and hard on her feet. She also said she liked the free feeling of being in stockinged feet indoors.

richyrich said...

I take it that she doesn't wear her shoes at her home. Has she said anything about that?

Sandro said...

I also enjoy the feeling of being shoeless indoors. At the same time, I hate feeling shoes on my feet indoors especially if I know the floor is clean.

Anonymous said...

Yes she has a no shoes home which I guess is'nt that unusual, but I was more surprised about her always going stockinged footed in the office.

Sandro said...

Are others expected to remove their shoes at her home? How common is it for Wales? Thank you for your answers in advance.

richyrich said...

I live in Wales and I always remove my shoes at my home. As in the rest of the UK other people who regularly practise it as a matter of policy still seem to be in the minority but I think it's more common than it was and is becoming more common too.

mark said...

I take off my shoes at my office and wear slippers. But when I have a client I wear smart shoes.

Sandro said...

I change into slippers in winter and walk just in socks summertime. We have a tile floor.

Greenstone said...

I do keep my shoes on at my office; the only time I had to take them off was then I was helping a co-worker decorate the conference room for Christmas and we had to get up on lounge-style chairs and she took her knee-high boots off and asked everyone else to do this before we step on chairs. I found her request a little strange, but complied. Felt a little strange to be shoeless at work, but at the end it felt quite comfortable.

richyrich said...

Greenstone, I honestly can't see what's strange about asking people to remove their shoes before standing on lounge style chairs. Seems a perfectly reasonable and sensible thing to me if you don't want any damage to be caused to the chairs

Anonymous said...

(This is Greenstone) Richyrich, would you, too, take your shoes off if you had to get up on a lounge chair? I first felt a bit self-conscious being without shoes around the ladies who were my coworkers. But since all of us were in stocking feet iI felt more comfortable later. A couple of ladies even complimented me on my socks!

richyrich said...

Greenstone, I would probably take off my shoes before standing on a lounge chair. So did you feel my self conscious being stocking footed in front of ladies? If you were may I ask why? It's always nice to be complimented about your socks! Do you mind me asking what sort of socks you were wearing?!

Anonymous said...

(This is Greenstone) Richyrich, I felt self-conscious because I felt shoes were a part of my outfit when I was at work, and taking them off made me feel as if I were not fully dressed. I was wearing lime green cashmere socks, and got complimented on them. Since the ladies complimenting me were in their stocking feet I reciprocated the compliment and complimented them on their stockings. After the compliment exchange I felt a little more at ease. Do you think the compliment exchange was strange? Next time, if faced with this situation again, should I ask whether to take my shoes off?

richyrich said...

Greenstone,
Some people do feel awkward when shoeless in front of other people, I don't though. However if the ladies you were with were also in their stockinged feet at the time, I can understand that would have made you feel more comfortable. I'm sure that you and the ladies complimenting each other's socks and stockings lightened the mood. Do you remember what sorts and colour of stockings/tights the ladies were wearing? And have you seen any of them removing their footwear at work on other occassions? (Hope you don't mind me asking you these questions!)If you were faced with a similar situation in future (ie having to stand on a chair at work) I would justt take off my shoes without asking. I'm sure that the lady who asked you to do so last time would be pleased with you!

richyrich said...

And women feel flattered when men compliment them on any of their clothing!

Anonymous said...

Richyrich,

They wore sheer tights, I think the one who asked me to take my shoes off had black ones on and two other ones had nude ones on. I had never seen any of them shoeless before, so the experience of all of us being on equal footing without shoes was something new. They did not compliment each other, just me, and I complimented them back. Would you be okay if your stockinged feet were complimented, and have you ever been shoeless at work? And, why would that lady be very pleased if next time in this situation I just take off my shoes without even asking?

richyrich said...

Well many years ago I was working in this office and there was bad snow (as there is today)I walked to work (I didn't want to take the chance in driving) in my wellies and didn't want to carry a pair of shoes with me so i just took them off when I arrived at the office and spent the day working in my socks. They had some patters on them (I don't remember what kinds exactly)A female colleague told me that she liked my socks and I liked the fact that she complimented me like this.
Interesting that the ladies complimented you but not each other, I don't know them of course but it may well be that they thought they were being a bit flirtatious by complimenting your socks and if that was the case they would have liked the fact that you returned the compliment!And the lady who asked you to take off your shoes (and took off her own boots of her own accord)the last time you stood on a chair she obviously thinks it's important to take good care of the furniture so if in future you did it again without having to be asked she would probably think you were acting responsibly.

Anonymous said...

Richyrich - I am glad no one minded you working in your socks. Would you take off your shoes or boots if you had tights on though?

You are probably right about that lady thinking I would be acting responsibly... during the compliment exchange I said "looks like all of us have our shoes off" and she said "yep, we all have manners and we all made ourselves comfortable!" Do you think it was good manners to take shoes off? Would you request that a coworker do so if he or she were to climb your furniture?

richyrich said...

Greenstone,
Since I'm male I don't wear tights but if I was female I think I would be fine about going shoeless especially if I needed to put my feet on furniture but also if I was wearing heels and they were getting uncomfortable.

Yes I do think it's good manners to take shoes off if you're going to put your feet on furniture belonging to other people and also to at least offer to remove them if visiting someone else's home (especially if you see them shoeless) It would be interesting to know if the lady who asked you to remove your shoes has a shoes off policy at her home (I'd say there was a good chance she had given that she thought it was good manners to do it when climbing on furniture in the office but you may well know better than I!) I would ask a colleague to do so if we were in a similar situation at work and certainly at my home (I do greatly appreciate visitors to my house removing their shoes at the door when they come in)

Also do you mind me asking you (sorry again for being inquisative!)about how old the ladies were, what sort of company you work for and where are you located (are you in the UK and if you are what part of it?)

Anonymous said...

Richyrich, I am male too, the ladies were in their late 20s, possibly early 30s, and it was on the east coast of the US. Have you ever complimented ladies on their stockings and were your compliments well-received?

richyrich said...

I don't think I've ever complimented ladies on their stockings in work or a public place.

Anonymous said...

Richyrich - have you ever seen women at work being in stocking feet, and if do, what were they wearing?

richyrich said...

At the same firm as the one I mentioned earlier (when I worked in my socks when the snow was bad) there was a young lady (in her early 20's at the time) who worked there and she would always take off her shoes as soon as she arrived at work and spent the whole time in her stockinged feet. She was always very smartly dressed (skirt, blouse, jacket or smart pants) and sheer tights. A few of us did ask her why she always took off her shoes and she just said that she didn't mind wearing them. We got used to it after a while.

Anonymous said...

Richyrich - sounds like she was making herself comfortable, what colours of tights did she prefer and did she get any compliments on her outfit? Where were her shoes while she was working? Was she the one who complimented you on your socks?

richyrich said...

No she wasn't the one who complimented me on my socks. She would usually wear nude tights and sometimes suntan and occasionally black ones. I think a few people did compliment her on her outfits. She usually wore high heeled shoes to come to work and often t-bar or ankle strap ones. However the shoes would nearly always come off as soon as she was in the office (sometimes before she even took off her coat!)no matter what kind of shoes they were!

Anonymous said...

Richyrich - I wonder whether anyone complimented her on her stockings, I am sure I would if I were at your firm. Did she have her own office or had to share it with others? Did her feet look presentable and did she tuck her foot under her when she worked?

richyrich said...

She shared her office with others and her feet looked perfectly presentable and she never tried to hide them. Did your colleagues' feet seem presentable when you saw them with their shoes off and did they try and hide them at all? Some women don't seem to like people seeing their feet!

Anonymous said...

My colleagues' feet were presentable and they did not try to hide them - not to mention it is hard to when you are standing on a chair! In fact, they seemed to be quite comfy in their stocking feet and did not mind me looking at their feet.

As for your colleague - were the floors at your office clean enough for her feet to stay clean after a day of being stocking footed? Did any other colleague of you take her shoes off too?

richyrich said...

There was a cellar at our office where archived documents were stored and where the floor wasn't very clean and my colleague would sometimes go there (in her stockinged feet) and at those times her soles were then a bit soiled by the end if the day but not too bad. Some of the other women at the office would sometimes take off their shoes (especially in summer) but nothing like as frequently as this one

Anonymous said...

How large was your office? Was it carpeted? Did the lady go to the meetings in stockinged feet too?

richyrich said...

We were a fairly small office and it was mostly carpeted. When we used to have meetings she would attend those in stockinged feet. Clients did not normally come to our office. Do your colleagues dress smartly for work. Do you remember what else they wore on the day when you all took off your shoes? Were they in skirts or pants?

Anonymous said...

All my colleagues were dressed smart, all these ladies I talked about were in skirts or dresses. I am surprised that all of them felt perfectly comfortable taking their shoes off before getting up on the soft chairs. When I complimented one of them she giggled and thanked me and showed me her foot up closer. Did your colleague always had nice pedicures?

richyrich said...

She seemed to have yes. How about yours? Do you think
there be an opportunity for you all to go shoeless again any time soon?

Anonymous said...

All three ladies seemed to have nice feet, enhanced by their tights. Maybe that's why they took off their shoes without any issue? When they decorate for Valentine's or St. Patrick's should I volunteer to help them?

richyrich said...

Of course you should and if they don't take off their shoes to do it remind them how they did it at Christmas. Have you talked about the matter with any of them since that day?

Anonymous said...

I will suggest it then. Probably will need to wear my best socks. No, never discussed the shoe thing with any of them since then, should I do it and how?

richyrich said...

Well you could compliment them on their shoes or tights and go on to talk about the subject from there or maybe or get to talk in general about Christmas or other festivals and celebrations and ask them about plans to decorate the office for those

Anonymous said...

Thanks. Should I also mention to them that we will take our shoes off to decorate the room?

richyrich said...

Of course!

richyrich said...

Please let us know when you do end up decorating the office again and if you do get to talk about the whole subject.

Anonymous said...

I will definitely let you know!

richyrich said...

Thank you Greenstone. If you'd like to e-mail me my address is richyrich54321@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Hiya

Anonymous said...

Richy,

I posted here a while back about the receptionist in our office who lives in a cottage out in the country and changes into clean shoes or boots when she gets to the office.

Having had a lot of snow here I did the same thing as you mentioed and wore wellies o work but decided not to bother taking shoes with me and work in my socks instead.

Anyway, this lady complimented me on my socks and thought it funny that i had'nt bought shoes to wear in the office.

I have caried on doing the same thing for the last few days and today she did the same wearing wellies in but not bothering with shoes and going stockiged footed intstead.

richyrich said...

Thanks for the update Anonymous? So may I ask what sorts of sock you were wearing? And what made ther lady to not bother bringing shoes with her to change into when she took off her wellies?

mark said...

We have moved to a new house and we do ask everyone to remove their shoes. My fiancee is planning to hold committee meeting at the house(she is on a choir committee) and she be asking all those to come to remove their shoes.

Matthew Celestis said...

Excellent. Thanks for dropping in.

Where in the world do you live?

mark said...

Hi there. We live in the beautiful Derbyshire Dales. Its a semi rural area, quite affluent and very wet and muddy, so thankfully removing shoes seems to be the norm here.

Anonymous said...

Mark - is it common in your area to take shoes off even when dressed up, particularly for women?

mark said...

I would say that its the norm in my area to take off shoes.My fiancee has lived here longer than I have and she has only once not been expected to remove her shoes.The majority of homes here still have carpets,some are very expensive, so wearing shoes is not an option.Some homes offer slippers(this is what we intend to do when we settle in)and many guests, especially women take their slippers to change into. My fiancee take a pair of "travel slippers" to wear. When we visit, we automatically step out of our shoes when we arrive. Its rude not to do so.

Anonymous said...

Mark,

How common is to walk around in stocking feet when visiting in your area? Are you saying that bringing slippers, especially for women, is de rigeur?

mark said...

Its extremely cold here at present, and it stays that way for much of the year. Therefore it is essential to wear something like slippers. The majority of visitors will bring slippers, especially women.

mark said...

We are planning to have a few people round at our new house next week and we shall be asked them to bring their slippers with them. Its just too cold here to go without slippers.