Sunday, December 21, 2014

Emily Post- The Etiquette Daily: The Shoes stop here: How to accept the ‘no shoes’ policy

Emily Post- The Etiquette Daily: The Shoes stop here: How to accept the ‘no shoes’ policy

Q. I was recently in the home of close friends who announced they were going to start the ‘no shoes allowed in the home’ rule soon. I was surprised and commented ‘you aren’t serious, are you?’ They indeed are. I have always considered that rule to be downright rude and believe it communicates to the guest that the homeowners possessions are more important than they. I do not think it is hospitable. It’s their home so I guess they can do what they wish, but is there any way I can communicate my opinion without being rude? Is it rude to choose not to comply?

A. In some cultures it would be rude not to take off your shoes when entering a home. Your friends may have very good reasons for deciding no more shoes. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they consider their possessions more important than their friends. It is their home and they do have the right to make rules concerning it; so next time you visit take along a pair of slipper socks and enjoy yourself.